I know that you have speakers coming to talk with your kids about dating, you might try what our ward did. However, we showed a video rather than have speakers. Our ward showed the video by John G. Bytheway, "Gospel Standards for Youth". We had parents and youth watch it together. Then after viewing the video, the kids wrote down questions, or concerns they were having in keeping the standards. The Young Women gave their questions to the YW presidency and the YM gave theirs to YM Presidency.

Then we separated the groups. We had the YM go into one room the YW went to another and the parents remained in the chapel. We felt the YW would be more open to discussion when they weren't with their parents or YM. The bishop lead a discussion with the parents, and his counselors lead discussions with the youth, (along with the presidency YM/YW) During the classroom change, the YW presidency read all the questions/concerns the girls had, and sorted through the questions so their wouldn't be repeats of the same question, an also to take out silly things that kids just say and do. This made it easier for the leader of the discussion, as he only received questions that were pertaining to the standards. It was an excellent night, the discussions in each group were very direct, and we all felt that the girls had benefited.

I popped in on both YW and the adults group, and found that the parents were also very thoughtful about the video, they realized that they sometimes lowered the standard because it was easier, and then later regretted it. If you haven't seen the talk I highly recommend it. He discusses what a standard is and why we should keep it, as well as relating stories from the scriptures in a humorous way that the kids can relate to. He covers dress standards, and dating standards. The kids had a great time, and I believe came away thinking they
could keep the standards, and be choose to be close to the Lord even though it is hard.

The talk we showed will be shown on March 5th and March 27th on the BYU Broadcasting station. We came to the conclusion that all the youth of the church should see this, so you may want to have it shown at another meeting if you can't use it for Standards Night. By-the-way you will probably want to have the meeting be a little longer than usual since the video is about 50 minutes long (if I remember correctly). Good Luck it is such an important topic for the youth.

Several people have asked about the talk by John Bytheway on Gospel values. Here is where I got my information.  I watched it on the Direct TV on the BYUTV channel. I found the showings at www.BYUbroadcasting.org/findatalk   I typed in Bytheway where it asked for the speakers last name and it opened another window that gave me four choices of talks, the last one being Gospel Values for Youth. On the far right click on search listings, and it will tell you when the program is rebroadcast.

You can hear the talk if you go to http://byubroadcasting/edweek/ then change the year to 1998, and scroll down to the talk "Gospel Values for Youth" by John Bytheway this is only the audio version.

I hope that this will help.